“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
~ Marianne Williamson
There is so much that can hold us back from being our full shining selves.
There are messages from society or our families of origin that tell us we are “too much” or we need to “tone it down.” There are internal stories about whether or not there is room for us to be our big selves. We take on all these messages and live our lives in a small box with little room to move and little room to be our authentic selves. Being in this box we feel comfort and safe and don’t take risks that will make us be seen as different or “too big for our britches.”
As Marianne Williamson says, “Who are we not to be” our “brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous” selves? No matter what your spiritual or religious beliefs you are on this planet with a purpose. You are not here to be small or self-limiting. You are here to be your full expressive fulfilled self. Some refer to being your big self as stepping into your power, following your bliss or being in the zone or flow. However you put it, at the core of it you will end up living a more fulfilled life.
Being big means different things to different people. For some it is teaching a classroom of 5-year-olds or leading a group of 200 people to become leaders themselves. For me, being big and shining comes when I am coaching and helping people. The common ground with living your big life includes living life passionately, intentionally and authentically.
The most important thing is to give yourself the permission to be…YOU!
So how do you give yourself permission to shine bright and live big? You need to know that you deserve it. This will be easier for some than others, it depends on how deep your internal story goes. You need to make the decision that living your authentic life is truly what you want. You have to know that the confined life of the box no longer fits the fullness of you. Know that the world needs you. The world, your family, your friends need you to show up fully with all the passion, love and power that is within you.
Let go of the fear that holds back, take the lid off the box. It may be uncomfortable at first. When you step out of the box it can be uncomfortable. You will need to use different muscles, tools and beliefs than you have given yourself permission to use in the past. You will learn how to walk on these new legs. Stumbling can be expected the key is to keep going. If not now when? Take the leap. Your life is waiting for you!
About the Author
Kendra Hughes is a Transformational Life Coach and a married mother of three with a colorful, winding, bright, beautiful history. She was born and raised in Cape Co, MA and has loved every minute of it. To learn more about her coaching, visit her website or follow her on Facebook.
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